It’s OK – Even when it feels like it’s not

I was going to write this big, inspirational post on how to love yourself and how important self care is, and how it’s OK if you’re alone on Valentine’s Day.

I was going to write about a sure-fire way to love yourself, how to truly get to your own core and forgive yourself.

I was going to write about how this is the most important thing in life.

I actually started a couple of different posts and (almost) finished them. But then, I couldn’t get myself to post them.

I couldn’t get myself to post them because they weren’t completely true.

Yes, I believe that it’s important to love yourself, forgive yourself, and it’s definitely OK to be alone on Valentine’s Day – because after all, it’s just a day.

What I REALLY want to tell you, is that it’s OK.

Even if you don’t love yourself and have no idea how you will ever love yourself, it’s OK.

Even if you’ve screwed up and don’t think that you can ever forgive yourself, it’s OK.

Even if you don’t know if you’ll ever find that special person, it’s OK.

Even when it doesn’t feel like it’s OK, It’s still OK.

Life doesn’t always make sense and sometimes it’s frustrating and heartbreaking and it hurts like hell.

And guess what?

It’s still OK.

Because no one’s life is perfect, and no one has it all figured out. Even those people who seem like they have it “all figured out” still struggle some days I am SURE of it.

But there IS always hope and IT’S OK.

There is love and grace and magic in tiny moments, embedded into the world around us – and this magic is already within you, too.

So even when you don’t know what to do and nothing feels OK – remember that IT’S OK – and somehow, things usually end up figuring themselves out.

Usually, we are already stronger and more powerful than we ever thought possible. 

A wonderful way to uncover this magic is to start with giving yourself the grace, compassion, and forgiveness that anyone else would instill upon you.

So if you don’t know where to start, then you can try a couple of these simple steps.

  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Forgive yourself
  3. Know that everything WILL be OK.
  4. Pick a self-care technique that fits for you.
    1. Simply eating well and exercising and taking care of yourself
    2. A bath
    3. Letting yourself enjoy a good movie
    4. Going on a date with your partner or taking yourself out on a date

Or, you could delve into things such as

  1. Heart meditation
  2. Meditation in general
  3. Read a personal growth/discovery/whatever you want to call it book
  4. Watch a motivational video
  5. Sign up for a course 
  6. Therapy
  7. Life coach

These are just a couple of ideas, but do what works for you! I’ll include a couple of my favorite videos and books below if you don’t know where to start.


Heart Meditation (The first 20 minutes – this meditation changed my life)

Brain Tap Headphones – these are AMAZING – I bought them a year ago and it really helped guide me in meditation when I didn’t know what to do


You Can Heal Your Life  by Louise Hay

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz


I’m sharing this because this is what has helped me. It’s changed my life and I don’t know where I’d be otherwise – and I hope it helps you too <3