Is it really worth it?

“Is it really worth it?”


This thought has popped into my mind on many occasions and in many circumstances over the years, and especially as of late.

I’ve been thinking about this because things aren’t always easy. And when they aren’t easy, I think many of us start to ask – Is it all really worth it?

  • Maybe you’re struggling through a hard class at school.
  • Your child is screaming again.
  • Your child is angry.
  • Your child gets in trouble and you don’t know what to do.
  • Or you’re job is particularly hard at the moment.
  • You’re at a seemingly dead-end job and you’re alarm clock goes off, yet again, as you peel yourself out of bed.
  • You have another audition for that play/movie, looking to find some traction.
  • Another photoshoot.
  • Another album recorded.
  • Another day at the desk.
  • Another workout.
  • Another salad when you really want the mac and cheese (like, every day)
  • Your relationship is strained and there seems to be no passion, no love.
  • You’re writing yet another, uninspired page of that “book” you’ve always wanted to write.
  • You’re sitting at yet another therapy session, hoping to find “the answers”.
  • You’re crying on your bathroom floor (yup, been there).
  • You’re saving and pinching pennies for that new car.
  • You’re taking care of a sick loved one and your own life seems to have gone by the wayside.

At some point or another, when we are in the thick of it, in the trenches of life, sweating it out, clawing our way through another day, I do believe that I’m not the only one who has asked myself,



Oh my gosh, is it really worth it?

And my answer is yes. Sometimes it’s hard, it’s so so hard and it feels like we can’t go on. Sometimes it seems like it’s all for naught.

But at the end of the day, it’s worth it.

It’s worth it because when you finally finish that book, that class, your child finally smiles at you, and your relationship improves (or you decide that it was actually destructive and are in a new, more loving one), you can be proud of yourself.

Maybe things don’t come out the way you’d like; you bomb the recital, your book doesn’t get published, and your kid is still driving you crazy.

But what you do have is the pride and confidence that you can do hard things. You can get through the seemingly impossible. You become more resilient, skilled, and confident. You begin to learn how to navigate the world around you. You become a little stronger.

Sometimes, there is no way around; to get to the other side, the only way is through. (IF we tried to get around it, it’d probably come up again in some other way and life would have to teach us the same lesson – again! Not fun.)


Sometimes it feels like we are so deep in the trenches of life that there doesn’t seem to be a way out, or even a possibility that we will get to the other side.

Somewhere in the middle we ask ourselves “Is it really worth it?” and then we have two choices. We either retreat, lay down and cry, give up, fall into self-loathing and self-pity and lose all our confidence;


You adjust your compass, you reach out for help when you need it, you acknowledge it’s hard and then keep moving through.


Because on the other side there is a beauty and a light and a sense of satisfaction and pride that you CAN do this. That in the end, it’s OK.

It may not always look like we want or expected, and it may not always happen on the timing we want.

But you WILL get there, and on that other side, there is a stronger, more confident you than you ever could have imagined – and that you is capable of even more great and beautiful things that you haven’t even imagined yet.