I love birthdays and I love my birthday. I know it sounds self-centered but I really do.
It’s a beautiful day where you get to celebrate yourself – I mean, wow! You get to celebrate yourself! Your wonderful, beautiful, fantastic self! Is there anything better than that?!
Seriously, though, have you ever thought about how amazing and special you are? How it’s such a small chance that you were born into this world? How there really isn’t anyone quite like you?
So to celebrate walking on this crazy beautiful earth for 30 years, I want to take the time to today to share some of the things that I would tell my younger self if I could go back, some insights and ideas that have helped me find the beauty in life, that have left me more fulfilled than I could ever have imagined 10 years ago or even 5 years ago.
First, don’t take yourself so dang seriously!
(I’ve been reminded of this many times, and recently read it in the book “The Art of Possibility” – super inspiring!)
Really, really, though, hear me on this. I still struggle with this at times, but remembering this rule literally shifts my world every time.
When you think about it, most things in life aren’t life or death – sure, we have lots of decisions to make, and many impact our lives quite significantly –
but it isn’t the end of the world if we gain a little weight around our waste, or if our hair is a little messed up, or if we realize that we picked the wrong major in college. It’s so easy to take everything seriously, down to what we’re going to eat for breakfast,
but most things can be changed, shifted, or solved.
So if you feel like eating cake for breakfast, eat the dang cake! If you gain a little weight, don’t freak out! Realize that life ebbs and flows and you can easily get back on track – in this case, adding in a slightly stricter workout routine and eating whole, healthy foods will probably do the trick.
If you aren’t happy in your job, there are things you can do to make it more bearable, or you can start looking for a new one. If your relationships aren’t as rich as you’d like, there are things you can do to enrich them or there’s always the option to change them or add in new ones if need be.
This may all sound simplistic, but honestly, most of our problems are solvable, and we tend to make them harder than they really are.
Really, it’s all about the balance.
So, if you want to eat a cookie, eat a cookie.
If you want richer relationships, find a book and read about it. (I recommend The Five Love Languages!)
If you want to chop off your hair, chop off your hair – it’ll grow back.
If you want to go back to school and study something else, go back to school.
If you don’t like your job, look for a new one.
The world is FULL of possibilities when you open your eyes.
Stop taking yourself so seriously.
Stop caring what people think. Stop trying to live up to the image of what you think people want you to be.
Do you want to know what people want you to be?
They want you and they want the real you and only YOU know who the real you is, so why not just be you?
People honestly tend to feel duped and confused when they don’t get the “real” person – also, it’s really exhausting to put on a facade your whole life, so you might as well drop it now and do YOU – plus, when you truly start doing that, you’ll likely find a lot more fulfillment in life.
Surround yourself with things and people that uplift you.
It’s really exhausting if you’re around people who don’t uplift you. If you find yourself feeling drained around the people around you – go find new friends, listen to a podcast, read a book, stop watching the news, stop looking at perfect Instagram lives, and live your life.
Look around you. What have you been missing? What do you see around you, right in front of your nose, that’s beautiful and wonderful and you can find joy in?
Lastly, please do something nice for yourself.
Take baths, get massages, enjoy your morning coffee, binge watch Netflix for a night. Do SOMETHING nice for yourself.
You deserve it, and also, when YOU are happy, you’ll make the people around you happier – isn’t that what we all want?
So in conclusion – enjoy your life! You only have one and you don’t know when it’s going to end, so you might as well enjoy it and sip and savor every moment like it’s your last.
And stop taking everything so seriously! – because life is fun, and it can be a big game.
Either you can play a game like the Hunger Games and live in fear the whole time – or – you could treat it like Candyland, where every twist and corner is full of joy and surprise and color – you choose 🙂
Honestly, there are SO many little magic moments, so many I’ve lost count – and you can too 🙂